These are not problems. You have made them problems. And once you look at a simple thing as a problem, it becomes a problem — not that it is. It is your look, your attitude.

“Most of the time I feel sexual and my eyes remain seeking the other.” So what is the problem in it? Where is the problem? It is as if a hungry man thinks of food and goes on looking for restaurants. What is wrong in it? Will you say that he is in a problem and he has to get out of it? He will die if he get out of his problem; he has to find food. Love is food, a very subtle food.

“Most of the time I feel sexual and my eyes remain seeking the other.” Natural. You are searching for food, and you are hungry. But people have taught you that sex is a problem. It is not. It is pure energy. It is divine. It has nothing like a problem in it. You can create a problem if you don’t accept the energy, if you don’t flow with it. And I know if you flow with it, one day you will transcend. You will go higher, you will ride on it and you will reach higher and higher. It is a beautiful energy, which can take you to the very ultimate, but if you make a problem of it, you will remain obsessed with it forever and forever. And the more you fight with it, the more sex and the sexual energy will fight back. It has to fight back, because it is survival energy.

You are made of sexual energy. If your father and mother had thought that it was a problem, you would not have been here. You are out of a problem; you exist because of a problem. Because your father and mother could not solve the problem, that’s why you are here.

This is my observation, that a person who thinks of sex as a problem can never be respectful to his parents. How can he be? Just look. It is simple arithmetic. How can you be respectful to your father? He was doing something nasty to your mother! In fact you would like to kill the guy immediately. And how can you respect your mother? She is also a sexual being, as any ordinary woman, just animalistic. How can you touch the feet of your mother? Impossible. Unless you accept your sex as a gift, a divine gift, you cannot respect your father and mother.

Gurdjieff used to say to his disciples — he had written it on his house — that unless you respect your father and mother, don’t enter here. Looks very ordinary. And a man like Gurdjieff could not find a better thing to write? “If you don’t respect your father and mother, don’t enter here” — but he has said many things in a simple way. Only a person who accepts sex energy totally can respect his father and mother. Otherwise you can pretend; you cannot respect.

And if you think sex is a problem, a disease, something to get rid of, will you be able to love your children? How can you love your children? They come out of a problem, out of a disease. You will hate them. You may pretend that you love them, but you know that they are actualizations of your problem. They will always indicate you as a sexual being. They will always go on as a proof in the world that you were animalistic, that you could not get beyond sex. They will be a proof, a permanent proof of your degradedness.

No, I would like to tell you, sex is not a problem. It is pure energy. And if you avoid it, then of course you will be continuously looking. Then it will become an obsession. Then you will be completely possessed by it and it will become a perversion. Then whatsoever you will see, you will see only sex in it, nothing else. And you can get so obsessed you can go mad.

Freud has said that out of one hundred people who go insane, at least ninety are certainly because of sex — repressed sex. Sex has to be understood, has to be creatively used. It is vital life, fire, alive. You are made of it, everybody is made of it.   To avoid this, Christians have been trying to prove that Jesus came out of “Virgin” Mary — just to avoid how Jesus can come out of an ordinary sexual love affair. And they know that they have not been able to prove it.

We have never done that in India. We accept Buddha, Mahavir, Ram, Krishna, all being born out of sexual love affairs. We have never thought in terms that sex is animalistic.  Even a Buddha is born out of it. We know that a lotus is very much different from the mud out of which it comes, but it comes out of the mud. The mud has to be respected; otherwise all lotuses will disappear. Yes, the water is muddy, but you have to live it, you have to go through it, you have to pass through it, to flower like a lotus on top of it, far away. Nobody can imagine that the lotus comes out of the dirty mud. It is a transformed form; it is a mutation.

This is the whole effort of Patanjali: to tell you that from the sex center to the sahasrar it is the same energy, moving through new transformations, at each center achieving a new vision, a new potentiality, a new wing — flowering, more and more petals. At the sex center there is a lotus — a four-petaled lotus, but a lotus. Maybe four-petaled, but still it is a lotus. At the sahasrar it becomes a thousand-petaled lotus, but still a lotus — a thousand-petaled, as if millions of suns and moons meeting. A great communion and synthesis of energy, but of the same energy. The same energy has come of age, has grown, flowered.

So the first thing I would like to say to you: please, don’t take sex as a problem. It is not. Otherwise it will become a problem.

If you try to avoid it in your life because of some stupid teachings that have been thrown at you and you have been conditioned for them, it will become a problem. It will haunt you. It will become almost a ghost, continuously with you and talking with you. It will become an inner talk; and you will be looking everywhere, everywhere with a deep dissatisfied being. You will almost become a beggar, begging and begging — and feeling guilty and feeling bad, almost like a criminal. Just because of an attitude. It seems that you have been influenced too much by religious people, by the church, by the temple, by the priest.

“Most of the time I feel sexual and my eyes remain seeking the other. And also I am too much in the mind.” You have to be then. Because if you fight with sex, where else will you go?  Then the whole sex will become a mind thing. Then it will move into the head. Then you will think about it, fantasize about it, dream about it. And those dreams cannot be satisfying because no dream can be satisfying about food. You can go on fantasizing about food and being invited to the palaces of the kings, but that is not going to help. When you will be out of a dream you will again feel hungry, more so. After the dream you will feel more dissatisfied — and again and again, because you are avoiding an actuality, a reality of life, a fact, which has to be accepted, used, creatively transformed.

I know one day it is possible your energy will move in sahasrar but let it move as a mature energy. One day sex will simply disappear from your life; then you will not think about it. Then it will no longer be a fantasy to you. It will simply disappear. When you have achieved the higher orgasm of the same energy, the lower orgasms have no appeal. But up to then it is going to become a head thing.

And it is good if sex is in the genitals because that is the right place where it should be. If it is in the head, then you are in a mess. Gurdjieff used to say to his disciples that if each chakra functions where it should function, a man remains healthy. When chakras overlap and the natural locus is lost and energy moves in a haphazard way…. If you make  windows in people’s heads, you will find their genital organs because sex has moved there; and of course if you are in a mess there is no wonder about it. It has to be so.

Bring your energy to the natural center, each energy to its place. Then it functions well. Then you can even hear the humming sound of the whole functioning of the organism. It is just like a beautifully functioning car. Hmm?… you drive and you can feel the humming sound surrounding you.

But when things go wrong, then of course you are topsy-turvy, upside down. Nothing is where it should be. Everything is missing from its natural center and is found somewhere, overlapping, hiding, escaping. You become a chaos. And this is what insanity is.

And now you ask me, “I remain covered in the clouds of these problems so that I cannot listen to you as I should. Please guide me.” You are not fed up with guides yet. They are your problem. And you are not fed up with “shoulds” yet. That’s your misery, the whole misery. Drop all “shoulds,” drop all guides. That’s the only guidance I can give to you. Just be totally alone, and listen to your Own inner voice. Trust life and nobody else. And life is beautiful, intrinsically valuable. And if you listen to anybody else, against life, then you will go astray.

So I call that man a real Master who helps to give back to you your inner voice. He does not give you his voice. He simply helps you to reclaim your own lost inner voice. He does not guide you; in fact by and by he takes all guides away from you so that you can become your guide and you can take your life in your own hands and you can become responsible.

This is irresponsibility, again and again asking somebody, “What should I do?”

And that’s why you feel continuously in trouble with me. You would like me to spoon-feed you, so you have not to do anything. I should do everything — the chewing and everything — and I should spoon-feed you. That I am not going to do, because that is what others have done, and destroyed you.   I love you. I cannot do this. I tremendously love you; it is impossible for me to do that. I would like to make you responsible, to take charge of your life. When are you going to take charge of your life? You are not children. You are not helpless.  This is how I am going to help you: to make yourself just yourself, to help you to move towards that direction which is your destiny.

All creative energy can become destructive, and all destructive energy could have become creative. For example, Hitler: he wanted to be a painter in the very beginning, but he was not allowed. He could not manage to pass the examination and enter an art school. The man who could have been a painter became one of the most destructive men in the world. With the same energy he may have become a Picasso. And one thing is certain — he had energy. The same energy could have been infinitely creative.

Ordinarily, women are not destructive. In the past they were never destructive because they were continuously pregnant. One child is born, then again they were pregnant. For their whole life they used their energy. Now, for the first time in the world a new danger is arising, and that is the destructiveness of women, because now there is no need for them to be pregnant continuously — in fact pregnancy is almost out of date — but the energy is there.  There is a deep connection between birth control methods and the Women’s Liberation Movement. Women are becoming destructive and they are destroying family life, their relationships. They may be trying to rationalize it in many ways, but they are trying to be liberated from the slavery. In fact it is a destructive phase. They have the energy and they don’t know what to do with it. The birth control methods have stopped their creative channelization. Now if some channels are not opened to them they will become very destructive.

In the West the family life is almost gone. There is continual conflict, continual fighting, quarreling and being nasty to each other. And the reason is — and nobody understands what the reason is — a biological problem.

So whenever you feel the period is corning, be more alert; and before it  starts, do wild dancing. You can go beyond nature because you have a higher nature also. One can go beyond biology, and one has to, otherwise one is a slave to hormones! So whenever you feel destructive, start dancing. What I am saying is that dancing will absorb your energy. You are doing the opposite. You may like to rest and not do anything during these days, but do something — anything, go for a long walk — because the energy needs release. Once you catch the point, once you know that the dance relaxes you completely, those four days of your period will become the most beautiful because you will never have so much energy as then.

It is very good to know which days you will be suffering from your monthly period — whether you are a man or a woman — because when somebody is suffering from their menstrual period, you have to be more compassionate and more loving towards the person. He is not his usual self…. The only thing to be remembered is that if you both have menstrual crises on the same date, then one of you has to go for a honeymoon — just one. Each month you can alternate — next month the other one can go for the honeymoon. But don’t remain together, because that will be a very explosive situation….

Unless you become a watcher, unless you become a witness to your own mental states — this is what I call meditation. And these are great opportunities:  when you are feeling sad, just watch it. It is chemistry — you are consciousness. Don’t get mixed up with chemistry; don’t get identified with chemistry. It is physiology, it is chemistry, it is biology — you are consciousness, a watcher. Slowly, slowly, even when your whole chemistry is going berserk, you will remain centred, grounded, unaffected — and this is true for both, man or woman.”

You desire to become something. Tension means that you are not pleased with what you are, and you long to be what you are not. Tension is created between these two. What you desire to become is irrelevant. If you want to become wealthy, famous, powerful, or even if you want to be free, liberated, to be divine, immortal, even if you long for salvation, moksha, then too the tension will be there.

Anything that is desired as something to be fulfilled in the future, against you as you are, creates tension. The more impossible the ideal is, the more tension there is bound to be. So a person who is a materialist is ordinarily not so tense as one who is religious, because the religious person is longing for the impossible, for the far-off. The distance is so great that only a great tension can fill the gap.

Tension means a gap between what you are and what you want to be. If the gap is great, the tension will be great. If the gap is small, the tension will be small. And if there is no gap at all, it means you are satisfied with what you are. In other words, you do not long to be anything other than what you are. Then your mind exists in the moment. There is nothing to be tense about; you are at ease with yourself. To me, if there is no gap you are religious.

The gap can have many layers. If the longing is physical, the tension will be physical. When you seek a particular body, a particular shape — if you long for something other than what you are on a physical level — then there is tension in your physical body. One wants to be more beautiful. Now your body becomes tense. This tension begins at your first body, the physiological, but if it is insistent, constant, it may go deeper and spread to the other layers of your being.

If you are longing for psychic powers, then the tension begins at the psychic level and spreads. The spreading is just like when you throw a stone in the lake. It drops at a particular point, but the vibrations created by it will go on spreading into the infinite. So tension may start from any one of your seven bodies, but the original source is always the same: the gap between a state that is and a state that is longed for.

If you have a particular type of mind and you want to change it, transform it — if you want to be more clever, more intelligent — then tension is created. Only if we accept ourselves totally is there no tension. This total acceptance is the miracle, the only miracle. To find a person who has accepted himself totally is the only surprising thing.

Existence itself is non-tense. Tension is always because of hypothetical, non-existential possibilities. In the present there is no tension; tension is always future-oriented. It comes from the imagination. You can imagine yourself as something other than you are. This potential that has been imagined will create tension. So the more imaginative a person is, the more tension is a possibility. Then the imagination has become destructive.

Imagination can also become constructive, creative. If your whole capacity to imagine is focused in the present, in the moment, not in the future, then you can begin to see your existence as poetry. Your imagination is not creating a longing; it is being used in living. This living in the present is beyond tension.

The first thing the imagination becomes active about is the future. You create images, and because there are no corresponding realities you go on creating more and more images and you become tension.

If you are running, and the running has become the totality of your existence; if you are the sensations that are coming to you, not something apart from them but one with them; if there is no future, no goal to this running, running itself is the goal — then you know a positive well-being. Then your body is non-tense. On the physiological level, you have known a moment of non-tense living.

If you can feel non-tense moment in your body, you will know a well-being that you have not known before, a positive well-being…. Your body can be non-tense only when you are living a moment-to-moment existence. If you are eating and the moment has become eternity, then there is no past and no future. The very process of eating is all that is. You are not doing something; you have become the doing. There will be no tension; your body will feel fulfilled.  — if a moment has become total, whole, and you are in it completely — then you will know a positive well-being in your body.

Love your body and you will feel a relaxation such as you have never felt before. Love is relaxing. When there is love, there is relaxation. If you love someone — if, between you and him or you and her, there is love — then with love comes the music of relaxation. Then relaxation is there.  When you are relaxed with someone, that is the only sign of love. If you cannot be relaxed with someone, you are not in love; the other, the enemy, is always there.  When there is no love flowing between the two, the other is hell, but if there is love flowing in between, the other is heaven. So whether the other is heaven or hell depends on whether there is love flowing in between.

Whenever you are in love, a silence comes. Language is lost; words become meaningless. You have much to say and nothing to say at the same time. The silence will envelop you, and in that silence, love flowers. You are relaxed. There is no future in love, there is no past; only when love has died is there a past. You only remember a dead love, a living love is never remembered; it is living, there is no gap to remember it; there is no space to remember it. Love is in the present; there is no future and no past.

If you love your body; you become relaxed, you care about it. It is not wrong, it is not narcissistic to be in love with your own body.

And I know your difficulty: if you have a physical problem, if you are blind, how can you believe that this is only a dream? If you are crippled, how can you believe that this is only a dream? But have you not watched? — every night you dream, and every morning you know that it was a dream and all nonsense — and again you will dream, and in dream again you will believe that this is truth. How many dreams have you dreamed in your life? Millions of dreams! Each night you are dreaming almost without break; just for a few minutes the dreaming stops, and then again another cycle of dreaming starts.

Millions of dreams you have dreamed. And every morning you have laughed and you have said it was unreal, but you have not learnt much. Tonight again when you dream, the same fallacy will persist: you will know that this is truth — in dream you will know this is true. The day you can remember in your dream that this is a dream, immediately the dream disappears…because you have brought awareness into your life.

It looks very difficult to trust that all that you are suffering is just a dream created by yourself — but it is so, because all those who have become awakened say so. Not a single awakened person has said otherwise. And in lucid moments of awareness you will also feel the same. This is my suggestion for you: your problem cannot be solved only by an intellectual discussion — your problem can be only dissolved, not solved. Your problem can only be dissolved by becoming more aware.

Stress is not always wrong; it can be used in beautiful ways.  It is not necessarily negative, but if we think that it is negative, that is not good, then we create problems. Stress in itself can be used as a stepping stone, it can become a creative form. But ordinarily we have been taught down the ages that stress is bad, that when you are in any kind of stress you become afraid. And your fear makes it even more stressful; the situation is not helped by it.

For example, there is some situation in the market that is creating a stress. The moment you feel that there is some tension, some stress, you become afraid that this should not be so: “I have to relax.” Now, trying to relax will not help, because you cannot relax; in fact, trying to relax will create a new kind of stress. The stress is there and you are trying to relax and you cannot, so you are complicating the problem.

When stress is there use it as creative energy. First, accept it; there is no need to fight with it. Accept it, it is perfectly okay. It simply says, “The market is not going well, something is going wrong,” “You may be a loser”…or something. Stress is simply an indication that the body is getting ready to fight with it. Now you try to relax or you take pain-killers or you take tranquilizers; you are going against the body.  The body is getting ready to fight a certain situation, a certain challenge that is there: enjoy the challenge!

Even if sometimes you can’t sleep in the night there is no need to be worried. Work it out, use that energy that is coming up: walk up and down, go for a run, go for a long walk, plan what you want to do, what the mind wants to do. Rather than trying to go to sleep, which is not possible, use the situation in a creative way. It simply says that the body is ready to fight with the problem; this is no time to relax.

Relaxation can be done later on. In fact if you have lived your stress totally you will come to a relaxation automatically; you can go on only so far, then the body automatically relaxes. If you want to relax in the middle you create trouble; the body cannot relax in the middle. It is almost as if an Olympic runner is getting ready, just waiting for the whistle, the signal, and he will be off, he will go like the wind. He is full of stress; now that is no time to relax. If he takes a tranquilizer he will never be of any use in the race. Or if he relaxes there and tries to do TM he will lose all. He has to use his stress: the stress is boiling, it is gathering energy. He is becoming more and more vital and potential. Now he has to sit on this stress and use it as energy, as fuel.

Sehye has given a new name for this kind of stress: he calls it ‘eustressi , like euphoria; it is a positive stress. When the runner has run he will fall into deep sleep; the problem is solved. Now there is no problem, the stress disappears of its own accord.

So try this too: when there is a stressful situation don’t freak out, don’t become afraid of it. Go into it, use it to fight with. A man has tremendous energy and the more you use it, the more you have of it…. When it comes and there is a situation, fight, do all that you can do, really go madly into it. Allow it, accept it and welcome it. It is good, it prepares you to fight. And when you have worked it out, you will be surprised: great relaxation comes, and that relaxation is not created by you. May be for two, three days you cannot sleep and then for forty-eight hours you can’t wake up, and that is okay!

We go on carrying many wrong notions — for example, that every person has to sleep eight hours every day. It depends what the situation is. There are situations when no sleep is needed: your house is on fire, and you are trying to sleep. Now that is not possible and that should not be possible; otherwise who is going to put that fire out?

And when the house is on fire, all other things are put aside; suddenly your body is ready to fight the fire. You will not feel sleepy. When the fire is gone and everything settled you may fall asleep for a long period, and that will do.

Everybody does not need the same length of sleep either. A few people can do with three hours, two hours, four hours, five hours, six, eight, ten, twelve. People differ, there is no norm. And about stress also people differ.

There are two kinds of people in the world: One can be called the racehorse type and the other is the turtle type. If the racehorse type is not allowed to go fast, to go into things with speed, there will be stress; he has to be given his pace. And you are a racehorse! So forget about relaxation and things like that; they are not for you. Those are for turtles like me! So just be a racehorse, that is natural to you, and don’t think of the joys that turtles are enjoying; that is not for you. You have a different kind of joy. If a turtle starts becoming a racehorse he will be in the same trouble…!

So accept your nature. You are a fighter, a warrior; you have to be that way, and that’s your joy. Now, no need to be afraid; go into it whole-heartedly. Fight with the market, compete in the market, do all that you really want to do. Don’t be afraid of the consequences, accept the stress. Once you accept the stress it will disappear. And not only that, you will feel very happy because you have started using it; it is a kind of energy.

Don’t listen to people who say to relax; that is not for you. Your relaxation will come only after you have earned it by hard labour. One has to understand one’s type.  Once the type is understood there is no problem; then one can follow a clean-cut line.

Why have people started thinking — and doctors have started even advising their patients — that sex is good for your mental health? And they are right: all the people who have repressed sex in the past in the name of religion, have suffered tremendously with headaches. Even a man like J. Krishnamurti suffered for forty years continuously with such great headaches, migraine, that even he, a man of such understanding, used to think of hitting his head with the wall and be finished — the pain was too much.

It has been discovered that millions of men around the world suffer from migraine after making love. And 1 was reading a report of a Scientist – his mind itself is conditioned. He is trying to find all kinds of causes why men suffer from migraines. He has been working on the project continually for one year. Just now he has produced his report, giving many, many causes — physiological, chemical — and the reality is so simple, there is no need of any investigation. The reality is that you have divided men’s mind into two parts. One part says,  “What you are doing is wrong. Don’t do it”; the other part says, “It is impossible to resist the temptation — I’m going to do it.” These two parts start struggling, conflicting. Migraine is nothing but a conflict, a deep conflict, in your mind. No aboriginal suffers from migraine after making love.

Never bother about morality. The only concern for a sincere seeker is awareness, more consciousness. And your consciousness will take care of all your acts.  Without any effort, your acts will become moral — just like flowers without any act, without any effort they will blossom around you.  Morality is nothing but a conscious man’s lifestyle.

For example, celibacy creates millions of people who are perverted. Their perversion is rooted in their idea of celibacy; then homosexuality arises, lesbianism arises, sodomy arises, pornography arises. And now all that perversion has brought a new disease in the world, AIDS, which knows no cure. Still, no man of any importance is saying that it is because of celibacy — because that means irritating and annoying all the religions.

I have never thought that humanity is so poor that there are not even a dozen people who will say the truth — that when the time comes they will not hesitate to risk all their respectability. But I am utterly disappointed in the intelligentsia of the world: nobody is saying that it is celibacy that should be made a crime. On the contrary, governments are making laws saying that homosexuality is a crime. You are making the symptoms a crime, and nobody is even asking why people turn out to be homosexuals.

And who are the people who turn to homosexuality in the first place? — the monks, the soldiers, the prisoners, the boys living separately in university hostels. They become sexually mature at the age of fourteen and they have to wait at least ten more years for their marriage. And the biologists have found that men’s sexuality, their sexual energy, is at its peak when they are near-about eighteen years of age. By the time they get married they are already going down. And when they were at the peak of their energy, you prevented them from meeting girls; and the same is the situation of the girls. You don’t allow mixed hostels, otherwise there would be no homosexuality. You don’t allow nuns and monks to live in the same monastery, otherwise there would be no need for homosexuality. Destroy the basis and the perversion disappears.

Shepherds living far away in the forest or in the mountains, alone with their sheep, start making love to the sheep. That is sodomy; they can’t even find a man, they are so alone there, and their sexual energy wants some way to be relieved.

Perversion has been around man since religions began dominating him. They started giving disciplines to people without any understanding of human nature, without any knowledge of human psychology. They are still doing that, and they are forcing governments to make homosexuality a crime punishable by at least five years in jail. And the strangest thing is, in the jail, homosexuality is the most prevalent thing. So by sending homosexuals into jails, you are giving them new pastures, new possibilities. But nobody will say that celibacy is the cause, because all the religions preach celibacy.

Perversions arise because religions are against nature. And God is the most important cause of all perversions. Those who want perversions to disappear have to declare the death of God, because only with the death of God can those religions disappear and leave man in freedom to live according to his nature.

Religion has proved to be the greatest man-made calamity, a disaster, a suicidal attempt by man himself. It has created institutions which are all unnatural: celibacy on one hand, marriage on the other hand. And they have praised marriage as highly as possible. Marriages, they say, are made in heaven. But ask the married people —they live in hell. It is strange, marriages happen in heaven, and married people live in hell. But to say anything against marriage annoys even those people who are living in hell, and they will not raise their hands in support.

Nobody gives attention to the old people, so they find their own ways. They become more irritable, more angry, more fussy; they have their own techniques to attract attention. Their whole lives they were nourished by attention, but now nobody looks at them, nobody even bothers whether they exist or are finished.

One Indian singer, who loves Osho, Jagjit Singh, tells a beautiful joke. One of his friends who lives in London had come, so he asked him, “How are you?”

He replied, “Alright.”

Jagjit Singh said, “And how is your wife?”

He replied, “She is also alright.”

“And how are your children?”

`They are also alright.”

Jagjit Singh finally asked, “And what about Daddy?”

And the man said, “Daddy? — he has been alright for almost four years.” Four years ago he had died, so the friend is saying that he has been alright, completely alright, forever alright since four years ago!

Old people have only these methods to attract attention — that they are suffering from migraine, that they have a stomachache. The greater their medical vocabulary is, the more they will manage.

Finally, doctors started refusing, saying, “He is a mad person. He has no sickness, no disease; we have checked him so many times.” But the son said, “What can we do? — we should bring the doctor.”

So the doctors finally suggested that perhaps a hypnotist may be helpful: “Bring the hypnotist, so he can hypnotize him and tell him that he is absolutely alright. That is the only medicine he needs. If his unconscious grips the idea of being alright, then there is no problem.”

The sons were very happy, and they brought the hypnotist. He looked like a doctor with his bag and paraphernalia, with his small Sigmund Freud beard, with one glass on one eye — one has to be properly dressed according to one’s profession, and this is impressive! — and he asked the old man, “What are your troubles?”

The old man listed so many troubles. The hypnotist said, “Okay, you just lie down. I will be holding this pendulum which shines because it has a battery attached. You have to keep your eyes on it until you cannot keep them open.”

Old people become very cunning and very clever after a long life’s experience.  The old man thought, “This seems to be a con man by the way he is dressed…and what kind of treatment is going on?” He thought, “Let us see.” He did not wait for three minutes, he immediately closed his eyes, and when the hypnotist took his hand, he dropped it. He knew all the tricks…an old man, he has seen everything in the world!

The hypnotist said, “He is completely at ease and asleep. Now I will give him the suggestion that he is perfectly alright, he doesn’t have any disease and he will not harass his children with diseases that don’t exist!” And the old man remained silent.

His sons were very happy: “Why have we never thought of the hypnotist? We have been wasting so much money paying the doctors, and all that they say is, ‘You harass us. Although you give us money, it is sheer harassment. The man is not sick at all.’ This man is the right man!”

The old man was lying completely still. All suggestions over, the hypnotist collected his fee. One of the sons went out the door to see him off to his car, but even before he returned, the old man opened one eye and asked, “Has that crackpot gone or not?”

If you immediately close your eyes, nothing will happen because you will remain conscious. Whatever the hypnotist is saying, he will look like a crank: What nonsense is he talking? “Your eyes are becoming heavy” — they will not become heavy. “You are falling deep in a sleep” — you are not falling, you are perfectly alert. And he is cheating; he is saying that you don’t have any diseases!

If the diseases are mental, they may be expressed through the body, but their origin is in the mind.  And if you can put in the mind the idea that the disease has disappeared, that you need not worry about it, it does not exist anymore, the disease will disappear…. Mind has tremendous power over your body. The mind directs everything in your body. Seventy percent of your diseases can be changed by changing the mind, because they start from there; only thirty percent of diseases start from the body.

You fall down, and you have a fracture — now, that fracture cannot be helped by hypnosis saying that you don’t have any fracture. You will still have the fracture. The fracture has started from the body and the body cannot be hypnotized — the body has its own way of functioning. But if the process starts from the mind and extends to some point in the body, then it can be easily changed.

All problems are psychosomatic because the body and the mind are not two things. …The mind is the inner part of the body, and the body is the outer part of the mind, so anything can start in the body and can enter into the mind, or vice versa: it can start in the mind and enter into the body. There is no division, there is no watertight compartment.

So all problems have two edges to them: they can be tackled through the mind and through the body. And up to now this has been the practice in the world: a few believe that all problems are of the body — the physiologists, the Pavlovians, the Behaviorists…. They treat the body, and of course in fifty percent of cases they succeed. And they hope that as science grows they will be succeeding more, but they will never succeed more than fifty percent; it has nothing to do with the growth of science.

Then the other party is there which thinks that all problems are of the mind —which is as wrong as the first. Hypnotists and mesmerists, psychotherapists, they all think problems are of the mind. They also succeed in fifty percent of cases; they also think that sooner or later they will succeed more and more. That is not possible.  They cannot succeed more than fifty percent; that is the limit. Each problem has to be tackled from both sides together, simultaneously. It has to be attacked from the doors, a double-fronted attack; then man can be cured one hundred percent. Whenever science becomes perfect it will work both ways….

The first is the body, because the body is the portal to the mind — the porch. And because the body is gross it is still easily manipulatable. First the body has to be freed of all its accumulated structures. If you have lived for so long with the feeling that you are weak, then it must have entered into the body, into the very structure of the body. First it has to be relieved from there; and simultaneously your mind has to be inspired so that it can start moving upwards and can start dropping all the loads that keep it down.

A few facts have to be remembered. Firstly, man has the capacity for only one orgasm; woman has the capacity for multiple orgasms. This has created a tremendous problem. There would not have been any problem if marriage and monogamy had not been imposed on them; it seems it was not the intention of nature. The man becomes afraid of the woman for the simple reason that if he triggers one orgasm in her, then she is ready for at least half a dozen more orgasms — and he is incapable of satisfying her. The way that man has found is: don’t give the woman even one orgasm.  Even take away from her the conception that she can have an orgasm.

Secondly, man’s sex is local, genital. The same is not the case with woman. Her sexuality, her sensuality is spread all over her body. It takes a longer time for her to warm up, and before she even gets warmed up, the man is finished. He turns his back towards her and starts snoring. For thousands of years, millions of women around the world have lived and died without knowing the greatest natural gift — of orgasmic joy. It was a protection for man’s ego. The woman needs a long foreplay so that her whole body starts tingling with sensuality, but then there is the danger — what to do with her capacity for multiple orgasm?

As far as biological reproduction is concerned, orgasm is not a necessity. But as far as spiritual growth is concerned, orgasm is a necessity. It is the orgasmic experience of bliss that has given humanity in the early days the idea of meditation, of looking for something better, more intense, more vital. Orgasm is nature’s indication that you contain within yourself a tremendous amount of blissfulness. It simply gives you a taste of it — then you can go on the search.

The orgasmic state, even the recognition of it, is a very recent thing. Just in this century, psychologists became aware of what problems women are facing. Through psychoanalysis and other psychological schools the conclusion was the same, that she is being prevented from spiritual growth; she remains just a domestic servant.

As far as reproducing children is concerned, man’s ejaculation is enough — so biology has no problem; but psychology has. Women are more irritable, nagging, bitchy, and the reason is that they have been deprived of something that is their birthright; and they don’t even know what it is. Only in Western societies has the younger generation become aware of the orgasm. And it is not coincidental that the younger generation has gone into the search for truth, for ecstasy — because orgasm is momentary, but it gives you a glimpse of the beyond.

Two things happen in orgasm: one is, mind stops the constant yakkety yak — it becomes for a moment no-mind; and second, time stops. That single moment of orgasmic joy is so immense and so fulfilling that it is equal to eternity. In the very early days man became aware that these are the two things which give you the greatest pleasure possible, as far as nature is concerned. And it was a simple and logical conclusion that if you can stop your chattering mind and become so silent that everything stops — time included — then you are free from sexuality. You need not depend on the other person, man or woman; you are capable of attaining this state of meditation alone. And orgasm cannot be more than momentary, but meditation can be spread over the whole twenty-four hours. A man like Gautam Buddha is living every moment of his life in orgasmic joy — it has nothing to do with sex.

Make your love a really festive affair, don’t make it a hit and run affair. Dance, sing, play music — and don’t let sex be cerebral. Cerebral sex is not authentic; sex should be spontaneous. Create the situation. Your bedroom should be a place as holy as a temple. In your bedroom don’t do anything else; sing and dance and play, and if love happens on its own, as a spontaneous thing, you will be immensely surprised that biology has given you a glimpse of meditation. And don’t be worried about the woman who is going crazy. She has to go crazy — her whole body is in a totally different space. She cannot remain in control; if she controls it she will remain like a corpse.

The most ancient treatise on love and sex is Vatsyayana’s Kamasutras, aphorisms about sex.  It describes eighty-four postures for making love. And when the Christian missionaries came to the East, they were surprised to realize that they knew only one posture: man on top — because then man has more mobility, and the woman is lying like a corpse underneath him.  Vatsyayana’s suggestion is very accurate, that the woman should be on top. The man on top is very uncultured; the woman is more fragile. But why men have chosen to be on the top is so that they can keep the woman under control. Crushed under the beast, beauty is bound to be under control. The woman is not even to open her eyes, because that is like a prostitute. She has to behave like a lady. This posture, man on top, is known in the East as the missionary posture.

A great revolution is ahead in the relationship between man and woman. There are institutes evolving around the world, in the advanced countries, where they teach you how to love.  And in their teaching, the basic thing is foreplay and afterplay. Then love becomes such a sacred experience.

You should drop the fear of being intimate and totally losing control with a man. Let the idiot be afraid; if he wants to be afraid, that is his business. You should be authentic and true to yourself. You are lying to yourself, you are deceiving yourself, you are destroying yourself. What is the harm if the man freaks out and runs out of the room naked? Close the door! Let the whole neighbourhood know that this man is mad. But you need not control your possibility of having an orgasmic experience.  The orgasmic experience is the experience of merging and melting, egolessness, mindlessness, timelessness. This may trigger your search for finding a way that, without any man, without any partner, you can drop the mind, you can drop time, and you can enter into orgasmic joy on your own. I call this authentic meditation.

So you have to stop going into hibernation, stop playing safe, and all your frustration will disappear. Why should you be worried about the man? Let him ask the question, “What am I supposed to do? This woman goes crazy, jumps on top of me, starts scratching my face… !” But here in my place, among my people, he cannot make much fuss about it. He has to accept it as a natural phenomenon. Otherwise simply meditate — who is telling him to make love to a woman? Women have not discovered meditation. Perhaps it was these freak-outs who discovered meditation to avoid the woman and all the problems, and just sit silently, doing nothing — and the spring comes, and the grass grows by itself. He can do that.